FOSTERING A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP.

Paul Standal bases his work fostering healthy relationships on every human being’s need for positive regard. Positive regard is the glue that holds relationships together. Reciprocal transactions of positive regard are to relationship as gravity is to physics. It is like psycho magnetic energy holding a relationship in a tapestry of love. Empowering clients to understand and use this principle allows them to create a positive emotional environment to sustain a loving relationship.

In his practice, Dr. Standal helps couples in understanding the foundation of enjoying equality in relationships and helps them integrate rules for effective communication between partners. He facilitates skills of commitment, communication, collaboration and coordination necessary in any thriving, healthy relationship.

Because compatibility is based on what makes you you and what makes your spouse your spouse, the only way for relationships to survive major incompatibilities is to find ways of coping with and tolerating their irreconcilable differences. Dr. Standal helps couples cope with compatibility issues by fostering long term success in managing differing compatibility in three areas:

Healthy Relating

Communication, problem solving and conflict resolution are skills central to helping couples revitalize their relationship and fostering a loving relationship. Dr. Standal concentrates on teaching patients tools to heal wounds that each of them may have inflicted on each other. In his work with his patients, he concentrates on helping them learn active listening along with assertive communication. Learning to solve problems together in a manner that assures that each person is respected is essential to fostering a loving relationship.

Dr. Standal teaches his patients to communicate with loving intent while avoiding the cognitive distortions that are effected by attachment pattern created in our early life. These distortions and patterns of attachment can sabotage healthy communication and our ability to engage in an intimate manner with our partners. He helps couples communicate from the standpoint of “The Golden Rule” of doing unto others what they would have their partner do unto them. This requires learning both assertiveness skills and ways to give and receive caring feedback with their partner.
Helping couples solve problems requires each to adopt creating a positive emotional environment to make their relationship thrive and to manage their own emotions and to learn to agree to disagree when needed.