Ineffective Authoritarian Parenting Styles

Authoritarian Parenting Style	Results A Child Feels
Ordering, directing, commanding	Controlled, powerless, helpless, discouraged, incompetent, resentful, disrespected, rebellious
Warning, admonishing, threatening, forcing	Afraid, threatened, forced, discouraged, resentful, insecure, disrespected, rebellious
Exhorting, moralizing, preaching	Preached to, bad, wrong, guilty, inferior, inadequate, unworthy
Advising, suggesting, solving	Controlled, incompetent, underestimated, un-trusted
Lecturing, “Dr. Spock-ing”	Judged, criticized, unaccepted, resentful, inferior
Invalidated, misunderstood, alone, tuned-out, uncared for	Labeled, misunderstood, different, unaccepted
Name-calling, labeling, ridiculing, mocking	Ridiculed, mocked, offended, insulted, disrespected
Shaming, blaming, judging, criticizing, disagreeing	Shamed, blamed, guilty, bad, inadequate, insecure, defensive
“Praising,” “agreeing”	Confused, skeptical, resentful, offended, insulted
“Reassuring,” sympathizing, “consoling,” “supporting”	Minimized, weak, helpless, victimized, invalidated, disrespected, discounted
Interrogating	Probed, questioned, interrogated, un-trusted, doubted, tested, attacked, defensive
Withdrawing, “trusting”	Misunderstood, unimportant, invalidated, confused, unsupported
Distracting, humoring, diverting	Distracted, diverted, invalidated, repressed, denied, minimized, disrespected, confused

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