GRIEVING A LOST RELATIONSHIP

Denial

The person left behind is unable to admit that the relationship is over. He/she may continue to seek the former partner’s attention.

Anger

The partner left behind may blame the departing partner, or him/herself.

Bargaining

The partner left behind may plead with a departing partner that the stimulus that provoked the breakup shall not be repeated.

Example: “I can change. Please give me a chance.”

Alternatively, he/she may attempt to renegotiate the terms of the relationship.

Depression

The partner left behind might feel discouraged that his or her bargaining plea did not convince the former partner to stay.

Acceptance

Lastly, the partner abandons all efforts toward renewal of the relationship.