CARING FOR THE CAREGIVER

Dr. Paul Standal provides psychological support to caregivers. Family members who are mentally ill, dually diagnosed or elderly increases the likelihood that a spouse, children or relatives will become caregivers for them. This is especially true for the elderly who are ill or fragile or facing end of life process. Caregiving our loved ones can be a demanding and stressful job, taking time and energy away from other life tasks and obligations.

Dealing with the demands of a family member who is severely mentally ill, disabled, or suffering from addiction also brings with it feelings of guilt, shame, frustration and resentments. It is often an exhausting and sometimes thankless job that can lead to depression. In fact, caregivers are six times more likely to experience symptoms of depression, feelings of anger, irritability and overwhelm. Caregivers themselves experience more health problems than the general populations.

It is very important to ask for help from other relatives and to get support from a therapist when these feelings start to become obstacles to your everyday function. It is most important to take care of yourself physically and emotionally, eating well, exercising and taking breaks from your responsibilities.

It is also important to balance your feelings of responsibility for the situation and your family member with your ability to control their condition or the family situation. Maintain your other relationships in the family and in the community. Look after and maintain your friendships. Applaud yourself for your efforts at loving and caring for your family member and always make sure you reach out to Dr. Standal if you need professional assistance.